Polyamory… What is it?

Polyamory… poly- many, amory- love

Many loves.  Being Polyamorous means that you are not bound by the conventional law of monogamy – glued to one person forever (or even for the duration of the relationship).  Many people are finding that a non-monogamous relationship of some sort fits them and their mate better than being monogamous.

Why?  Some people just need more than what the other person can or is willing to give.  For example, some couples, you may have a partner who is totally into BDSM and the other wants absolutely nothing to do with it.  A loving partner would say, “Go get what you need” and others would say, “Go find someone to do it and bring them home”.  There are all sorts of combinations of scenarios for how this can work.

In my particular situation, I am bisexual.  My husband also likes to have some variety.  So we form Triads when we can and for us, we all participate together.  Likely, sometimes I’ll sit back for a moment and enjoy her giving him head or him fucking her or he’ll sit back and watch her and I together too.  But for the most part, we like the connection of the 3.  And for us, we’d like to build something special with that with someone special.

If we found more than one woman we connected with, I think a small tribe would be really cool, but for now, a strong triad is what we seek and something that we enjoy immensely.

Part of my family knows of our choice.  My husband’s family would most likely be ashamed and cut us off.  Our kids have no clue.  Hell, my kids and his family don’t even know I’m not totally straight.  While my kids would be totally accepting of it, his family would freak at least most of them would.

I recommend http://polyweekly.com/ for more information.  You can also find Polyamory Weekly podcasts at iTunes and there is a poly weekly forum at http://forum.polyweekly.com/index.php#1

Even monogamous people enjoy the show as there is plenty of invaluable relationship advice to be found.